Do You REALLY Want to Know?

Do You REALLY Want to Know?

I have found that relationships can be one of the most challenging things to experience. I have also found that life without challenges would probably be quite boring. While building a relationship with someone, we have our requirements and two of the most important requirements for a healthy relationship in my opinion are trust and honesty. Without those two components, you damn near need to be single. I know…I know…there are more things that contributes to a healthy relationship, but besides money… trust and honesty will end a relationship or cause some major issues/challenges along the way.

If your significant other makes the decision to be dishonest or unfaithful in the relationship, do you really want to know what they have done? I know of individuals who have made it VERY clear that they do not want to know if their significant other is doing something he/she shouldn’t be doing. I have learned to agree to disagree with that because I want to know! Now, I am not saying that I want to know which leg was up, how many strokes were made or what not. I am not even saying that I want to know so that I can kick both of their asses! I would want to know what I am dealing with and to make the choice to deal with it or not. Don’t take my choice from me! Some people are okay and have developed “open relationships”, but I ain’t talking about them right now! I would want to know because it truly shows me what type of value is placed into the relationship.

My curiosity comes in for those who want to know every detail of the experience. What was done, how it was done, what was the reaction from the person, how long did it take, was it better? What does one do with that information? I need some understanding! What would be your reason for not wanting to know? What’s your reason for wanting to know?

Please comment…this should be interesting!


6 Thoughts to “Do You REALLY Want to Know?”

  1. Teisha S.

    I agree, I would definitely want to know! I’m already nosey and an investigator at heart so I would likely found out anyway lol. I don’t know if I could handle specific details or not, but I would rather be told in general to know where I stand!

    1. Thank you for your reply Teisha!!! I totally agree with you! I don’t need to know if he slapped it up, flipped it, or rubbed down!

  2. Celestine Moore

    I would want to know the general scope of things. Cheating says a lot about people’s character. To me, they’re not mentally strong to go through things and still do the right thing. Its nobody’s fault but theirs – it’s what they choose to do, and until they can fix that character flaw, then they will probably always be a cheater and can never hold a meaningful relationship

    1. Hi Celestine,

      I couldn’t agree more! Cheating is a choice and while I wouldn’t want to know everything, knowing the general scope of things would be helpful! Thank you for your comment!

  3. Anonymous

    Well this is an interesting topic. First, let me express that I concur with the two fundamental factors of a relationship; however, I believe there is a third component (communication) as well. You can have honesty and trust all day, but if you can’t verbally express or convey your message/intent/thoughts accurately, then it’s a lost cause anyway. Now, addressing ‘the wanting to know and details!’

    Ha, me personally, I want to know everything! I’ve had the inquisitive type attitude/personality ever since I can remember. To me, knowing the positions, strokes, how long, how many times, etc., tells me a lot; not only does it highlight what’s wrong with my lady say for example, but it could also be a highlight to where I can self reflect. There’s a reason why people cheat; good, bad, or indifferent. Me personally, I would like to know so I can carry that knowledge on to the next relationship. Perhaps my stroke game ain’t right lmao! Or what ever he (or she now a days) doing, I’m not. Constructive criticism 101 haha! Js, I would not be so quick to bash. Bets believe I would feel some type of way, but I’m definitely coming with the questions. If I feel her answers are valid, I’ll use that and what I’ve done to contribute to her compromise to understand if the relationship is even repairable at that point. Just my thoughts tho.


    1. Uriah,

      What you have listed here is very interesting and you are so right! Communication is key! This is why I love comments because I can miss things unintentionally!!! I love your response and thoughts on why you would want to know! Thank you for your comment.

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